I went to watch the movie “The Help” with three other friends when it first came out. We laughed, we cried and we looked at one of our friends side-eyed. Color of skin never stopped me from befriending anyone because to me we are all the same. We hurt the same, our body functions the same and eventually we all leave this earth the same. I am a firm believer that we are more alike than we are different, but most of the time, we tend to focus on what makes us different than what makes us alike.
The moment that made the movie for me was when the maid got down and looked the little girl in the eyes and said, “You is smart, you is kind, you is important”, I couldn’t hold back the tears. To me this was powerful! The maid, who in those times was looked at as dumb, ignorant and unimportant, was instilling values into a child that would grow up and have privileges that that maid could only dream of based on the color of her skin. The child didn’t care who validated her or if it was spoken grammatically correct, she only wanted to feel the love and kindness that was displayed.
Now think about how life would be like for you if you had someone at a very young age who would have told you that you were smart, kind and important. When I was growing up, I had people telling me things to help boost my self-esteem; however, for every one person that told me something good, I had two telling me the opposite. So I started looking at the ones who did tell me all the good things about me like they were supposed to tell me that stuff because they were my family. So these outsiders must be telling me the truth and my family feeding me fluff. I went through life with not the lowest self-esteem but not the highest either; I would doubt myself a lot. I suffered from an identity crisis. Later on in life, I started to understand who I really was and what I could do. I put away those old thoughts that people once told me and looked at who I really was and I began to walk in that light.
This might sting a little when I say this part, sooooo brace yourself! There comes a time in life when you have to put away, get over, move on from and stop blaming your past for why you can’t do something today. I’m grown enough today to remember those things that have happened to me but not live paralyzed by them. So dust your shoulders off, square your chin and start making the best of your todays! Be blessed…
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